MOM, DON'T KILL YOUR INNERSELF

AT THE EDGE OF MOTHERHOOD : LIFE TODAY

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Being a mother is known as one of the most beautiful feelings of the world. It’s supposed to be one of the most amazing experience of a woman’s life. Of course it must be..having a soul in hand which was breathing inside that mother’s body.....it’s incredible.

But what’s the story after that? Having a cute baby in your arm is just one side of the coin.

Let’s turn it.

Offscreen story of “Having a baby” : A Glimpse of Reality 

In our country a married women is rarely asked whether she wants a baby or not. Being a mother can be a part of a woman’s life but not her whole life is just to be a mother. 
The husband in most of the cases don’t bother to ask his wife is she even prepare for a baby. Women who works outside are often forced to quit job if they ask for some time to be a mother.
And if the husband is sensible there are relatives, neighbours, friends who are dying to hear the good news. Whatever the problem is the only suggestion people would give “have a baby....all will be good”. Like seriously?? A baby means a new life...bunch of responsibilities ....not a PROBLEM SOLVER.

Inside Story of Motherhood:

To a woman her child is the centre of her existence. She has carried him for ten months inside her. I may not know how it exactly feels when someone get her baby in hand for the very first time. But I do know the fact that those ten months and that incomparable feeling makes a woman doing anything for the child, sacrificing her everything to look after her child. 

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But as per the law of life amazing things, beautiful things don’t stay longer. Suddenly, one day the mother wakes up to the reality of her life. That little part of her is not little anymore. It’s asking not to disturb, not to hug whenever you want, not to step out with him/her because she doesn’t fit to this so called up to date society, not to come in front of friends because she is not so updated like others’ mother, not to go to restaurant with him/her cause she is not aware of table manners and so on.

Well this is the situation more or less for everyone. Women who manage to continue the job throughout people have some other way to treat them. In that case neighbours , relatives, grandparents play the role of a fomenter. They are always feeding the child with “your mom is always out of home...she has no time for you.” Or they will be gossiping in front of the child “ See..that girl.....she is always out of the house.....you have a baby to look after.....what’s the point of doing job?”

A child is like a very soft dough of mud. These situations makes him blaming his mother and as a consequence the bonding with his mother starts to mould in a wrong way.

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So, motherhood....how are you feeling now? 
How is life? 
Are you okay?
Oh! are you trying to believe that you are unfit in society?

Can you remember those days when you were a teenager full of ambitions....your struggle for getting a job?
Oh! you left your job to be a perfect mom....right?
How come all of a sudden you are not fitting anywhere?

Being a Child :

Mothers are human beings not a supernatural creature with whom you can do anything and still she won't be hurt.  However she is homemaker or service holder you are everything to her. Don't misunderstand her because of some stupid comments of people. 

Your birthday is firstly the most special day of her life. Then it's a special day of your life. We all expect birthday wishes but forget to say "Thank you mom for bearing all those pains I gave you in the time of birth."

If she doesn't know to cope with social etiquettes and things you make her understand those instead of leaving her hand.
One day when you were unaware of things around you she protected you from everything. 
Our generation is always talking about women empowerment, individual rights, equal rights of women but somehow we just overlook our mother. Just look at your mom...where are her individual rights?  Or you have forgotten to consider her as an individual ?

One day she was also your age...full of dreams, hope....full of life. If you try a little bit to revive that inner part of her you will be the lucky one to see a mother who is not only living but also participating in living life with you. You will come to know how amazing your mother is as a person. 

To a Mother :

It's not my place to suggest a mother what to do or not. But from a child's perspective I would humbly say that don't be so much into your child that one day he/she just forgets your existence as an individual. 
As a daughter I would love to see my mom doing her things apart from thinking my wellbeing.
I wish I could see that lively girl who had once challenged the challenges of life in every step. Allow me to see that 'maa'.....live for yourself...I will be there for you always.


                                 ......I LOVE YOU MAA.

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